so often i think of making dinner for friends, family or i am invited to go do something and I let work get in the way, or i think i'm just too tired to go, or maybe my husband will give me attitude and want me to stay home.  After my brother left this earth existence, i have really been reevaluating my life.  I value my time and am saying yes rather than, i'll do that some other time.   My wish is that by writing this Blog, I might touch someone's heart who is letting precious time go by, working too hard, missing moments with their kids, spouses, siblings, dear friends.  That's one component.   The other is the silly grudges people can hold or be mad over something for years that can't even be remembered that keeps us from family.   People who share your childhood, good , bad or indifferent, there is nothing that can simulate the bond between siblings and I think it's really important.  For me, my Brother was the one person on the earth that shared my DNA, that truly understood the frustrations with our parents, someone i could call and talk who could lend an understanding ear and usually with a gentle word or two, bring a new perspective or calmness to a situation just because he truly understood what I was talking about.   Family is really important.  I haven't always felt that it was.  I have been very close to certain members but the cohesiveness, the Sunday dinners all disappeared with my Grandparents.   Sad but true.